Happily Ever After?


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“It’s Never Too Late to Live Happily Ever After.”

I pinned that on my Pinterest “Inspired!” board a couple days ago and within about 3 minutes, fifty people had re-pinned it. Considering I have only 18 followers and most of them never re-pin anything, I clearly struck a chord. As usual, that set my brain a-pondering.

I wondered why it is so many of us put off our happily ever afters. Is it because we get too wrapped up in our here-and-nows? Is it because we don’t know what happily ever after even looks like? Or does happily ever after really only exist in fairy tales?

My final answer? D) All of the above.

Of course, not all of these will hold true for everyone. But for the people looking for reassurance in the words of the above quote, I’d say they all apply to some extent.

The obvious one (and the one I’ve already written about before) is that we just get busy with our here-and-nows and tend to leave the future to its own devices. We figure if we do all the right things in our daily routines, the future will just work itself out and we’ll get where we’re supposed to be going. I can tell you from personal experience, it doesn’t really work that way. Sometimes your here-and-nows lead you down the wrong path. Or worse, sometimes they lead you nowhere.

I think a bigger factor is that most of us don’t know what happy ever after entails. We all start out with grand visions of the perfect life that will lead to that fairy tale ending. And for the vast majority of us, that vision is some version of “work hard, become successful in our endeavors, live happily ever after.”  But often, as we work hard and begin succeeding at the goals we’ve set for ourselves, we realize that something is still missing.  We thought achieving A, B and C would naturally make us happy. When we discover it doesn’t, we reassess and set new goals.  And when we reach those goals, we still aren’t quite happy. And we set off to reassess once again. And on and on.

Which brings me to the last point. Happily ever after really only exists in fairy tales. The End.

So, if we’re too busy to look for it and we don’t know what we’re looking for and what we’re looking for isn’t even real, how can we believe that it’s never too late to live happily ever after? How?

Here’s how: Live your happily ever after today and every day from here on out.

We’ve all heard the saying that happiness is a journey not a destination. That’s true. What’s also true is that you’ll never find happiness in things or situations or people outside of yourself. It sounds so cliché to say that you’ll never be happy within your life until you’re happy within yourself but it’s true.

When you’re happy within yourself, your life will naturally follow suit.  You will begin to let go of the things or situations or people who don’t serve that happiness. There won’t be room for that which doesn’t align with your internal state of being.

Looking at it that way though, the opposite is also true. When you don’t feel happy within, your life will naturally follow suit with that as well. You will align your reality with things that feed that discontent. And the only way to change that is to change your mind set. And the only way to change your mind set is to just do it.

Once again, all roads lead to the power of your thoughts in creating your reality.

So, just do it. For today only, imagine that you are exactly who you want to be. You are your ideal image. Even if you don’t believe that to your core, pretend. We’re all good at that. And do the things your ideal person would do. And think the thoughts they would think. You will be surprised that once you start, you won’t want to stop. And before you know it, you won’t be pretending anymore.

Because really, aren’t we all ideal just the way we are? I know I am…pretending to be.

Until next time LiliBeaners, go on and get happy! You know you wanna…

As a side note… You may have noticed that the picture above isn’t a drawing. That’s because…um…I didn’t draw anything. I’ve been playing out on Polyvore too much! This is one of the collages I created recently. I love doing the collaging so I’m trying to figure out how to do that outside of Polyvore as a commercial endeavor. The issue is finding images to work with that are legal for commercial use. I’m working on figuring it out though. Stay tuned…


  4 comments for “Happily Ever After?

  1. aamir
    March 28, 2012 at 2:22 am

    well once again very well written

    • admin
      March 28, 2012 at 8:10 am

      Thanks Aamir! I appreciate your feedback every week. You’re the best! xoxox

  2. meg
    March 28, 2012 at 8:19 am

    well put nadine! im reading 3 different books on happiness right now! although i consider myself to be a happy positive person it has become more of a contentness and something that doesn’t come so easily now! After losing parents and taking on the responsibility of a family i have become hardened but i am determined to find more everyday happiness!
    I have started to be realy silly again and have worried a little less about the cooking and cleaning and think more about fun and playing! We definately go to McDonalds much more but hey it makes us happy!
    I know that if i can get rid of my body hangups that i would be much happier!
    I’m realy trying to work on that!
    maybe you can post something on that!
    keep the great posts coming!

    • admin
      March 28, 2012 at 8:25 am

      Meg, I love your determination! You never give up. It’s really inspiring. And I’m glad to hear that you’re focusing on having more fun and playing. SO important!! I will definitely noodle on a self-image post in the next few weeks. =) Thanks girlie!! xoxox

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