Hello darlings! Hope you all had a fabulous week. Anyone out there watching The Voice this season? I love it. Seeing the contestants put every ounce of talent they have out there for the judges and the world to hear inspires me. I always feel terrible when not even one judge turns around for a contestant but most of them still feel lucky to have been given the opportunity to be on that stage.
This week, one of the contestants who did make it through said something in her post-performance interview that struck a sad chord with me. She said she was so grateful to even be there because most people never get their shot. That hurt my heart a little bit…mostly because I knew how right she was. I sat for a while thinking about it and pondering on why that is. And I finally came to a conclusion…
Most people never get their shot because they never go for it.
So many of us live our lives on auto-pilot. Staying the charted course assures us that we won’t crash and burn. We’ll get to our final destination safe and sound without much effort. No detours, no sudden moves, no crazy leaps of faith.
Sounds dreadful, doesn’t it?
So why do we live that way? For me, it‘s how I was raised. Security was everything. Pursuing dreams was ok as long as they involved a stable job and good benefits. Risks were scary and to be avoided at all costs. And I towed the line because it was the path of least resistance.
That’s not to say getting up every morning and going off to do something that I never wanted to do while my dreams were laying dying in a ditch somewhere was easy. But it was easier than crashing and burning. Or so I imagined.
It wasn’t until my dad passed away that I began to look at things differently. Seeing all the dreams he left in the ditch waiting for a someday that never came changed my perspective on life and living. I came to realize that the greatest risk isn’t crashing and burning. It’s having never let yourself soar.
It took me a few years to resolve to go after my dreams wholeheartedly and to try to truly live every day. And now that I’m doing it, I realize a little uncertainty is good for the soul. I feel alive in a way I never did before.
And at the end of the day, what’s the worst that will happen to me if I do crash and burn? I might lose my “things”, maybe my pride will be bruised. My confidence will certainly suffer. But my family will still be there for me. My friends will still believe in me. And most importantly, my dog will still love me unconditionally. So really, I won’t have lost anything important after all.
What would you do today if you knew you couldn’t fail? The key is to try. Because if you never even try, you’ll certainly never soar.
And if the gap between where you are and where you want to be seems too overwhelming, check out my All or Nothing post. It will help you get there from here. One little leap of faith at a time.
I imagine taking a leap of faith is similar to skydiving. Until you do it, it seems terrifying. But afterwards, you want to do it again and again.